There are things that are reality, and then there are things we need to believe to survive. They don’t often coincide. Sometimes one thing contains the illusion of another.
Any idea can be destroyed by too much analysis; this is the risk of breaking the boundaries within which the idea can live. If you allow your focus to fall outside of these bounds you will lose the meaning of the idea.
Imagine a beautiful piece of art you could produce with your own hands, and then ask yourself, what meaning in it? What is the point? Naturally the point only exists within the context of the aesthetic experience and the fulfillment of great inspiration. To complete it would be to accomplish a memorable and valuable thing. But to ask what else it means is to rupture this context purposefully. This is one of the more malicious thought patterns possible in humans. It is a logically invalid question to break a context and then try to interpret meaning from within that context. It is akin to saying “of all the colors possible to see, what is the number 7?” “You own a cat; but can it drive a car across the country?” “You ran 10 miles without stopping. Too bad you can’t fly.” These are all positions outside of their applicability. Any context can be broken and those who exercise this ability delude themselves thinking they have some additional measure of insight. The act of levity is very powerful and thus has all the pitfalls of being a great power, including temptation and corruption.
To take care of ourselves as human beings in all capacities including emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical, we need awareness of what contexts to break and what contexts to solidify. That is the primary mechanism of coming to know yourself. Identify the boundaries and in doing so identify where to find meaning and how to destroy it. How powerful an ability, and what strength it takes to apply it appropriately!
A man practicing objectivity might say that he is fundamentally alone and unknowable to any other person. In some context this might be true, but what is “alone”? Isn’t this a relative word, dependent completely on the concept of “togetherness”? Isn’t it like “courage”, which can’t be defined or in fact achieved without including fear? And so many other notions relative to each other on their own sliding scales; light and dark, black and white, good and evil? No man can be courageous without having fear, or else he is just an automaton. Nothing could be defined as “dark” in a world where there is no light. In other words, without the possibility of contrast, meaning is lost. So I ask, is it possible to be “alone” in some sense where there is no possibility for some kind of “togetherness”? isn’t it a waste of breath, a form of flagellation, to formulate such a destructive idea as “I will always be alone in some way”? Better to avoid it entirely.
Do not think negatively on some part of you that has a kind of permanent distance from others. Accept it, and embrace it. Do not attempt to reach a “greater connection”. You will only pursue a moving phantasm in perpetuity. Allow yourself instead to stop running, stop pursuing, and to let time slow down and give you rest and peace. Only then will you truly come to appreciate the few people in your life who can gift you with the sensation of being together on a deeper level than you can understand. Only then will you occasionally get the most memorable and intimate sensation that someone else has, for a brief instant, penetrated your veil and “felt” you in a new light. The context of being capable of love and of being loved is the most precious thing you will ever have. Allow it to live and breath in its own life. There is no need to prove it, question it, or analyse it. Just enjoy it, and survive by it.